Many people are making the transition toward thinking and behaving more positive. That’s a beautiful thing. A positive mental state really helps you focus your energy in more productive ways.
Just thinking positive however isn’t enough. The word positive means to be sure or certain. So if you’re not sure or certain in what you’re thinking... you’re actually not thinking positive. You can look the word up in a dictionary if you doubt me.
I speak with a lot of people. And I find common denominators with those that move (get in motion) toward their goals and those that don’t.
The people who have a hard time staying focused on their goals have an attribute called, interest. They’re just interested in their goals. It sounds good to talk about them and think about them, but they usually find reasons to never move forward.
They come up with a long list of reason too. I’ve heard them all. They feel they lack the skills, the money, the knowledge, the connections, the time, the energy, the motivation, the drive, the “natural talent”, and the list goes on.
Not only is this not “thinking positive” (being sure and certain), these people fail to realize the natural power they have within themselves. Those excuses I listed above are all things that can be obtained. Piece by piece; bit by bit.
On the opposite side of the coin, those who muster up the courage to move toward their goals have another attribute called, commitment. Instead of excuses, they look for ways to make things happen. They seek out information, people and other essentials that will be of benefit to them.
Committed people may not completely be positive either (feeling sure and certain in themselves). But the difference is they move forward regardless. They test the waters and when they finally get tired with that, they just jump in the pool. At that point, it’s sink or swim.
Will they make mistakes? Of course they will. No one is immune to making mistakes. But instead of that being a deterrent, they learn from them and grow. They accept the losses as they come and cherish every victory.
I remember one of my last jobs. I was working as a security guard in a high rise building off Peachtree Street; in the heart of Atlanta.
The company I worked for was losing the contract and a rival security company was slowly inching their way in. My own supervisor was working indirectly with this rival company and was pulling some of my co-workers into positions for this new company. But he never made me (or my close friend who worked there too) an offer to come over with them.
I would see my co-workers come to the high-rise building on their off days and go into secret meetings with my supervisor. I knew they were being trained in the policies and procedures of the rival company and they were essentially guaranteed jobs when this company took over. The Game can be cold.
At first I was upset that I wasn’t considered “good enough” to be offered a position with the rival company. How could I be overlooked? Wasn’t I an outstanding stellar employee?
I came to grips with reality. I was going to lose my job and there was no use in sitting on my butt and complaining about it. And although the security company I worked for offered positions in other buildings, I declined their offer and decided to use my limited knowledge to start my own business.
I was single with no children. I took my last paycheck and started my second business with two close friends. I jumped belly first into the pool, it was sink or swim! And I sunk. I failed. But I didn’t let that stop me.
I stay focused and a few years later I ran into the person I needed that would help me get my courage back. I took what I learned by observing and listening to him and jumped into the pool again. Yes, I know, I’m hard-headed. But you know what? This time I succeeded.
It was a long hard road, but I made it. Once I started swimming, I never had to punch someone else’s time-clock. I had the freedom to decide what was best for me to do. And it felt fantastic! The greatest thing any Hustler wants is their freedom. And I earned that for myself.
Despite tripping and falling a few times, I stayed committed. I held a goal in my mind for nearly 10 years. Since the age of 15 when I had my first job, I knew I wanted a business of my own.
At first it was just a strong interest. And like many, I was full of excuses. And after failing (twice, by the way) I should have had more excuses than anyone. But I pushed past interest and got committed.
When I stopped looking for “ways out” and started looking for “ways in”; when I started improving on my weak areas instead of ignoring them; when I started getting past my doubts and fears and moved forward anyway; everything changed.
If you find you have a difficult time staying focused on your goals, remember this:
When you change inside, what’s outside of you is obtainable. And when you improve inside, your goals are within your grasp, outside.
You must move from just being interested into being committed. That necessary “tunnel vision” every successful person develops to different degrees. Success in not a straight line! You must accept every turn, every valley and every peak. Interest alone won’t do it. You have to commit. And it's through commitment you'll find all the focus you'll ever need.
If you have something you want, then get in motion. Keep it moving!
Until next time…
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