After months of writing, re-writing, editing and formatting; The Mack’s Bible - How to Have More Women and Take Back Your Manhood, was officially released yesterday, April 19th!
In this blog post I’m going to answer a short series of questions about the book itself and why it was written. Big thanks to Lady Vese for coming through with some insightful questions. This is rather long so get comfortable!
(1) Question: Why did you write, The Mack’s Bible?
Answer: Because the modern Mack Game is vastly misunderstood. There’s a lot of misconceptions about it. You have two whole generations going around talking about they’re Mackin’ and they don’t have a clue as to what this layer of The Game is about. So instead of complaining about it, I wrote a book on it.
There’s a lot of nonsense floating around but, no uncommon sense floating around. Young males are out here calling women b*****s and hoes for no reason. You have young dudes going around talking about, “These hoes ain’t loyal”. So my question to them is, “What are they supposed to be loyal to?”
A woman’s supposed to be loyal to a complaining male who doesn’t take Responsibility for himself and his life? A woman's supposed to be loyal to a male who can’t be loyal to what they agreed to is their relationship? She’s supposed to cater to a male who’s weaker than her? This is the type of nonsense I’m talking about.
Yes, there are women who act like b*****s. Yes, there are women who sleep around a lot – but those aren’t hoes. A ho receives compensation for services rendered. People are using words and don’t know what they mean. The book puts this layer of The Game back into its proper Perspective.
(2) Q: What’s the difference between a Mack and a Pimp?
A: Well, at one time both a Mack and Pimp were synonymous. But over the last few decades there has been a gap between how they both operate. To keep it simple, a modern Mack is part Hustler (entrepreneur) and part Pimp. Modern Macks do not have hoes in their employ… usually; instead they’re more focused on establishing and running a business or multiple businesses. It just so happens that the women who are with him help him run it. Or the Lady, or Ladies, own and operate their own business, but the companies are put under a corporate umbrella. The Mack of course sits in the CEO and/or President’s seat. He’s also the majority shareholder if it’s a standard corporate structure.
There’s no one “correct” way to Mack so each Mack will have different priorities and ways of going about things. But, what I just said is “traditionally” the final aim of the modern Mack Game.
For the mentally sharp aspiring Mack, put the book, Unlocking the Small Business Game, together with The Mack’s Bible. Both those books provide ways to start building from the ground up; if you want to take your Mack Game into the area of business. That’s a little secret I just thought I’d share. It will take a wise Player to put all those puzzle pieces together though.
(3) Q: So why have only women? Why wouldn’t you just operate a business like normal?
A: What’s normal? What you were taught was normal? Macking is just a lifestyle. If you were in the armed forces, you have to live a certain way – it’s a lifestyle. You can also use the example of being a politician. There are certain places you wouldn’t be able to go and certain things you couldn’t do. I can go more into detail but that’s the general concept.
It’s a lifestyle that has its advantages and disadvantages like every other lifestyle. Ask your average married man about the disadvantages of the married lifestyle. If he’s honest, he’ll give you a decent sized list. Both the good and bad sit at the same table at all times; that’s just life.
(4) Q: Why would a woman want to be with a Mack instead of having a regular guy?
A: Again, what’s regular? What’s normal? I’ll give you the short and sweet answer. A Mack has Game and therefore understands life on an entirely different level than the average male. A regular guy is trapped in someone else’s Game – he thinks a certain way, he lives a certain way and those ways keep him out of his manhood. A male not in his manhood is unable to keep a woman in her womanhood. He doesn’t know or understand how.
So, a woman dealing with a regular guy gets... regular guy issues – confusion, lies, mixed-signals, petty arguments, a male that doesn’t follow the rules he sets down for his own household; things like that. You get his “representative” and not the real person. He’s pretending from the start. A real Mack doesn’t do that, he deals in what’s real.
What’s happening with the average guy is he’s trying to exhibit any form of manhood he can within the relationship. This is naturally in him, but without proper Game, it may take him many years to figure it out for himself. Most average males never figure it out.
The lifestyle of a Mack is unconventional but he’s an actual man – not a boy who has just grown up. As a woman I know you can tell the difference when you see it.
(5) Q: (laughs) Oh yeah… I can! In your book you talk a lot about women’s nature and how being a man goes along with that. Without giving away a lot of Game, can you explain why understanding women is important for a man to become a man?
A: Let me correct you on that because that’s doing things backwards in the wrong order. Learning about women doesn’t make a male become a man. It’s important to know, but that knowledge alone isn’t enough. Before your average guy can become a man, he needs to understand what being a man is about. Once he understands that, he will naturally become more attractive and effective with women. It won’t be anything he has to force – we’re talking about natural order and biology.
Women who are attracted to men, want MEN. They don’t want another child to look after. Most women have no issue with helping a man that’s already helping himself. A good woman is always supportive and encouraging – at least from my Perspective – but if the male isn’t doing anything then she’s basically taking care of him; mentally, emotionally and sometimes financially. This may be ok for a little while, but this isn’t what a woman really wants out of a man.
So, first things first. Become a real man first, then being better with women is almost like a natural side-effect. Half of, The Mack’s Bible, is learning to BECOME a man. Not ACT like a man, but become one. Then you take that foundation and learn how it works with being better with women. So, Inner Game first then Outer Game.
(6) Q: What else can the "regular guy" expect to learn from, The Mack's Bible?
A: For one, they can expect to get some real Game. Not this weak, twisted and backwards information that's been floating around for the last couple decades.
Some people are under the impression that a Mack doesn't respect women or that he uses women or even that a Mack is manipulative. None of that is true - but its become true because these "Baby Macks" don't have real Game. So they mix it with weak lines of thinking and try to "wing-it". They have gaps in their Game and they try to fill those with whatever they think is going to get them what they want.
The Game has always been about brutal honesty - not being full of crap - if you follow what I'm saying.
Knowledge about something gives you power over that something, and also power over those who have no knowledge of it. Many males have no power over themselves and no power in their relationships. They don't know what to do, when to do it or why to do it. The truth? You can only operate from what you know. And if you don't know, you just don't know. If you want to know, that's what this book will teach you. It's a guide - a "course" in book form. I take you step-by-step; no fluff, no confusion.
(7) Q: Going through the book it was weird seeing what a man is supposed to be. Where are all these missing men? The confidence of a man is just... oh my god... it's really sexy! What should a woman look for to see if she’s dealing with a real man or not?
A: It’s not difficult, really. Number one, a woman can’t define a man and she can’t make a male become one. And it’s also true that a woman can be many things, but she can’t be a man. My advice? Find yourself a Player. That will solve 75% of your problems! (laughs)
Seriously though, you can tell a real man by his overall behavior. It’s very consistent. This is because a real man has Standards and Principles that he lives by. Whether they’re convenient or not – and they’re not always convenient. In, The Mack’s Bible, I break down thoroughly how any man can develop these for himself. They’re extremely important.
A real man doesn’t bend and sway when life gets rough. It’s easy to “act” manly when life is good – but what does he do when life gets hard? What does he do when no one’s looking? It’s in those moments when a man’s character is tested. Real men rise up to any challenge. And real men have integrity.
You want to find a real man? Stop just listening to what he says; watch what he does and how he handles situations. The real person always comes out eventually.
Lady Vese: Well, thank you for the short interview. It was very interesting. Good luck with the book!
W. James D: Thank you and it was my pleasure. I appreciate you for asking some serious questions. Anytime.
*THE BLOG WILL RETURN WITH MORE GAME - WEDNESDAY, MAY 4th 2016*
Skip this story if you’ve heard it before:
“There was once a farmer who planted his crops. He knew he had good fertile land and was very proud to finish planting so quickly.
As the days rolled on, the farmer began to get very impatient. He would lie in his bed at night and stare at the ceiling. He couldn’t wait for his crops to grow so he could harvest and sell them. His eagerness ate at him every night and disrupted his rest.
As the crops began to grow, small shoots sprung up from the ground. The farmer went out every night and tugged on each and every one of the shoots. He hoped this would help them grow faster. But despite all his efforts, they never did. The crops grew in their own time and when they were supposed to.”
I teach The Game in 9 Principles. The 3rd Principle is called, Reciprocation. I define it like this:
Reciprocation: You must give in order to receive. You cannot get something for nothing and truly call it yours. You must earn the right to have or possess anything in your life.
We live in a world of where we have been taught to seek out instant gratification. Many of us want what we want and we want it now! But nature doesn’t work like that. People are a part of nature and The Game works through people. This means that nature plays an important function in The Game.
Consider this – everything that’s worth something takes time to grow – plants and flowers grow; great art and music takes time to create; even a child must grow 9 months in their mother’s womb.
These are all examples of processes. And these processes unfold in “stages”.
When you’re learning something new, you have stages you go through. Here are 3 basic ones just to keep things simple:
(1) DISCOVERY – AKA the initiation phase
(2) TRIAL & ERROR – AKA the apprentice phase
(3) PROFICIENCY – AKA the “I think I got it now” phase
The Game is a big advocate of knowing yourself first, before you choose to master anything. Why is that? Because you can spend months or years of your life climbing up a ladder just to find out that’s not where you really want to be.
A square (average person without Game) works things backwards. They try to DO and HAVE things so they can feel like they’ve BECOME someone. This is instant gratification thinking and is a very frustrating and rough way to move through life. They’re reaching for goals and aspirations to become what “society” deems is worth something. They never took the time to define themselves – they’re defined by other people.
A Player (a person with Game) works the other way – they BECOME someone first – then they DO what they need to do so they can HAVE what they want.
When a Player finds out who and what they really are then they choose a goal (or life Purpose) for themselves. This puts them into the discovery (initiation) phase. As they gain more knowledge of WHATthey’re doing then they figure out HOW and WHEN to do it. During this time they’re going through the trial and error stage; they’re gaining wisdom.
And finally when everything starts “clicking” they began to come up with their own formulas to bring about the results they want. This is understanding – the proficiency stage.
Here’s the key: If you don’t know what to GIVE, you won't get back what you want to RECEIVE.
You must GIVE in order to RECEIVE – but you have to know what to give. In other words, become first and the rest will start falling in line.
With the mentality of instant gratification you won’t do the necessary work. I see this all the time. Everybody wants more of something – but as soon as the first problem (obstacle/challenge) hits, they start thinking to themselves, ‘Hmm… maybe I’m doing something wrong. I’m not going to make it...’
They don’t get “instant results” so they stop moving in one direction and choose a new one.
Let me tell you this: You cannot get what you want if you’re not giving to receive what you want. As we say in The Game, “If you don’t put anything down, you can’t pick anything up.”
You must take control of your thinking and get out of the “instant gratification” mentality. As I explained earlier, nature DOES NOT work instantly.
“Anything worth something is worth struggling for.”
When I wrote my first book, you know what thoughts came to me? The same thoughts that would come to many of you: “Is anyone really going to read this?”, “Is anyone going to like it?”
These are the same thoughts I had when I wrote my first blog post in 2006. These are similar thoughts I had years ago when I hit the streets attempting to sow my seed of success. And again when I first got in front of an audience to speak.
Although those thoughts crossed my mind, you know what I did? I told them to keep walking. I chose think of possibilities, not limitations. I commanded my mind; I didn’t let my mind command me.
Once I know what I want, I’m willing to discover, learn, make mistakes and fail in order to get it. When I reach the other side, I’m always met with success. I play to win, not sit on the bench and watch.
If you really know what you want, then stay down to get it. Take all your bumps and bruises with a smile and keep going. Effort always pays off; even if you just learn how NOT to do something.
IMPORTANT NOTE: I’ll be taking a week off to finish the last proofing and formatting of my next book, The Mack’s Bible. The blog will return on Wednesday, April 20th.
Always keep it moving! Keep pushing out there – I’m out here pushing right along with you.
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