​(Quick Note: The following message is not for all Ladies. You’ll know if it’s for you when you read it.)
 
So I’m having a conversation with a single woman in her early 30s. Seems she's tired of playing games and is ready to have a serious committed relationship (like many women). Not a relationship with me, I was just a sounding board for her frustration. Plus I have Game so she wanted me to keep it very real with her.
 
She wasn’t ready…
 
A lot of her frustration seemed to come from the fact that males either seem to:

• Lie about what they want.
• Don’t know what they want.
• Don’t want what she wants (keeps running into the wrong guy).
• Are waaayyy to sensitive (to the point where she has to push them away because they have “psycho-stalker” potential).
• Just want sex (the classics never die out, do they?)

 
Now, although I’m a reasonable man I don’t like the “victim” mentality when it comes to women. Some pretend that they’re keeping it so real, but oddly every guy they run into is just not “Mr. Right”. Every… single… one… of… them…

​Some of these problems are a direct reflection of relationship BS. BS means: Bad Self-talk. You know… the things you say to yourself when you’re having those conversations in your head? Like:

• “Why are all the good men already taken?” or;
• “All men are dogs!” or;
• “He wants me to do what?! What the hell am I going to get in return?” or;
• “If men can do it, so can I!” or;
• “A real man has to love me for me,” or;
• “All men want is sex,” or;
•  “I’m just hangin’ with my girls, I don’t want to be bothered right now,” or;
• “If he really likes it, he better put a ring on it,” or;
• “I’m done with love… this month…”
• And I could go on and on and on.

 
Let’s chop up some Game, shall we? I find that some women seem to be under the impression that they’re special and different. But they never do anything to differentiate themselves from other women.
 
It has nothing to do with how you look (well… maybe a little), what you have, how you dress, what your hair looks like, what your make-up looks like, what you do for a living, how high your social status is, what car you drive, the fact your handbag matches your skirt, and so forth. None of this differentiates you from other women in the eyes of males! It does with women, but not males and even some men (yes, there is a difference between a male and a man).
 
Yes, we like women that look nice, care about their appearance and have some business about themselves. But that doesn’t make you different or special in our eyes. Why? Because when we finally get you to agree to that first date (which some ladies make it more a hassle than it’s worth), what we usually get is the same thing we got on our last date. And what do you ladies get from males? The same thing that YOU got from YOUR last date. And the cycle repeats itself. Disappointment.
 
The eternal truth of, “The same actions will bring the same results,” applies here.
 
Now let’s examine what you can do differently that will completely confuse the average male, but will impress him at the same time. When he runs back to his boys to talk about you, he won’t be saying how he just wants to “hit it”. Instead he’ll be talking about how you did these strange and different things and how he actually liked them.
 
He may never tell you that to your face, but trust me, unless he’s one of the slowest males on earth (and they do exist), he’ll be forced to put you in a different category. Mentally that is.

​Don't allow your dating BS to take over and go back to just being another average woman… Anyway, here's some things to think about:
 
(1) Stop waiting to be impressed. A person accepts what they expect. If you’re waiting to be impressed and your expectations reach the moon, then you’ll usually find yourself disappointed. Here’s a thought, why not try to impress him for a change?

(2) Stop looking at your date as a potential enemy! Get to know him first. It doesn’t take much time. Sure, you may get his “representative” for the first month or so, but the real person always comes out eventually. Males aren’t good at keeping up with lies.

(3) Give the guy a compliment. You probably don’t realize this, but males (and men) hardly EVER get compliments. Women get them fairly often – we don’t. There’s nothing wrong with sincere flirting either – we like it.

(4) Stop playing so hard to get. Yes some men (and males) like a little challenge, but if you’re feeling the guy, stop pretending like you aren’t. What usually happens is he backs-off because he gets tired of chasing you. Why waste time on you when he can spend that time on someone more receptive? If you like him, your job is to keep his mind off of other females, not push him towards them.

(5) Don’t try to change a man. You can get away with this on weaker males, but when you face a real man you’re going to turn him off. And I do mean QUICKLY! A man is looking for a partner, just like you; he’s not looking for a second mother or older sister.

(6) The world doesn’t revolve around you. He has a mind and emotions just like you. Leave some room for him! I warn females about this constantly. When you make everything about you and only you, you’re alienating an important need of a man (no, that need is not sex). What is that need? Discover that [HERE].

(7) And finally, stop being so wishy-washy. Don’t want to be "close" and lovey-dovey one week, then don’t want to get “too attached” the next week. That’s frustrating. He’ll figure everything is good until he gets that, “We need to talk,” text. Now he has to reevaluate if you’re worth the time and effort. Isn’t that what you’re trying to test him on anyway? If he’s willing to put in the time and effort? You’re shooting yourself in the foot here. When he decides to back-off, don’t act shocked.
 
So there you have it, some very simple tips to help improve your dating life with males and men. And if you’re looking for a “real man”, then as a real man, may I suggest trusting in his guidance and leadership? Bickering over every decision is exhausting. You’ll usually find yourself by yourself… again.

​(This post was inspired by a dear friend)
 
A Player’s life is very different than the average person. This largely stems from our Perspective on life and its many problems. While some people are quite content with talking about the latest drama going on in reality television and social media; or drama going on in their lives – a Player is very focused on a few key areas:
 
(1) Their inner growth (aka self-empowerment)
(2) Their outer growth (aka Advancement)
 
Like any individual striving for success, a Player understands that what you do today influences where you’ll be tomorrow. We look to our old friends cause and effect. So a Player wastes less time and strives to make more productive use of our time.
 
Because of this thinking, gaps are created (sometimes valleys or canyons) on the social level. It’s not that Players aren’t social – we just don’t spend a lot of time putting mental energy into unproductive areas. The average person does however, and this is where the “disconnection” starts with other people.
 
The result of our approach towards life leaves the average Player standing by themselves. We can be in a crowd full of people but still feel “alone”. We can’t fully relate to the average person because the average person can’t relate back.
 
It’s not that Players are selfish, egotistical or arrogant; it’s just trying to explain how and why we aren’t “normal” is like trying to explain calculus to a 5th grader (ohhh… that sounded a little arrogant, didn’t it? My bad).
 
Most Players pull themselves away from “normal society” not out of fear, low self-esteem or because we can’t cope, we just don't desire to “fit-in”. 
 
This pulling back phase leaves a lot of Players feeling rather lonely sometimes. Since human beings have a basic need to be heard, when there’s no one that can REALLY hear you (and understand you), it’s like being a speck of pepper in a world full of salt. To the salt, the pepper is out of place.
 
As a Player, how do you deal with these occasional bouts of loneliness and isolation? How does a Gentleman or Lady sit on their proverbial throne in an empty castle? Here are a few tips to get you started:

​(1) Fully accept who and what you are. This sounds basic but this is actually very deep. See, you have to accept that you ARE different. You have to accept that you must CREATE your lifestyle. Unlike the square (average person), you’re not reactive – you’re proactive. Squares wait – Players create.
 
Being a Player feels lonely because almost everything you do pulls you further and further away from being average and normal. This above average space is actually quite empty. Therefore, you have to accept that you must release yourself of the need to be heard.
 
You have to talk and be willing to be the only person that can hear you. At the same time you must be improving yourself and honing your skills.
 
(2) Remember where you fit into the natural order of things. Square consume – Players Produce. Both these functions are necessary. Everything in nature is playing 1 of those roles, or both at the same time.
 
While the square world revolves around trying to “get” and “have”, your primary concern should be to “become”.
 
Let me explain.
 
You must become the person who can hold and maintain what you want – mentally, emotionally, physically and “spiritually”. You must be strong and grounded in ALL these areas.

An individual’s mind can only think as far as it can think. When your primary focus is just going to go “get it”, you probably will get it. But, once you get it can you also keep it and maintain it?
 
Remember to decide on what you want to enhance your lifestyle first, then make plans to get it. Create your lifestyle; from the bottom to the top. Look at the details. What do YOU really like and want to have around you?
 
If you can sincerely answer that, then you’ll have an idea of the man or woman you must BECOME to create and maintain the lifestyle you choose.
 
And lastly,

​(3) You cannot define yourself as a Player without there being squares. How can you define heat without there being cold? How can you define happiness without there being sadness? Simply, you can’t.
 
There are 2-sides to every coin. A coin cannot exist without 2-sides and a center. Players are the natural opposite of a square. However, we all start out as squares. Players just realize that the square way isn’t working for them so they seek out a different way.

Stop trying to fit-in and relate. Stop trying to act other than yourself. Only put that “hat” on when you need to and take it off when you don’t. Squares are the majority and as a Player you have to accept that reality.
 
To master The Game you have to master BOTH worlds. You should be able to move between them at will to do whatever you need to do. You have to see things from both sides of the coin – just like the nature of The Game. The Game itself is neutral; it’s just there to be played. This moving in-and-out at will requires a high degree of mental and emotional mastery.
 
This understanding starts by not fighting against Social Conditioning, but releasing yourself from it. You should want to fully understand it and learn to use it to your advantage when needed. It becomes a tool instead of a burden. Your world opens up instead of feeling confined.
 
My apologies on being slightly obscure, but when you put this together, you'll realize the isolation isn't that bad. You'll have more time (and less distractions) to do what you need to do - and that's to create your lifestyle. Then you can start sitting on your throne with more peace and contentment.

​Until next time...

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​If you’ve been around here for a while (and hopefully noticed), I’m currently walking you through me building a business from the ground-up. From the outside looking in, the changes have been small but, they’ve all been made for reasons. Now you can understand those reasons and use them for whatever you’re doing – or planning to do.
 
A long time ago (more years than I’d like to admit), before I knew anything about Game and making money, I knew I wanted to be successful.
 
I bought books, courses and entrepreneur magazines looking for a way out (the internet was in its infancy back then). I couldn’t put my finger on exactly what “out” was, but I always felt a certain kind of way about working for other people. I got that from my father, I’m pretty sure of it.
 
After 2 failed businesses I was introduced to the Hustle layer of The Game by a gentleman named, Kal. As far as the stereo-type of a street Hustler, Kal was none of those things. He was laid-back, wasn’t “thuggish”, he was friendly, funny but very focused. When he came around, you just automatically liked him; you felt no menace from him at all. He had a glow about himself. I later learned Players in The Game called this radiance, an “aura”.
 
Kal was the first physical example of success that I could actually speak to and pick his brain. He was able to do things HIS way – and that’s what I wanted for myself for many, many years.
 
Kal laced me with basic Game. And I do mean basic; just enough to point me in a specific direction. He left the rest for me to figure out. I didn’t realize it at the time (and didn’t care), I was just happy to speak one-on-one with someone who knew what they were doing.
 
Looking back, I think I learned way more by observing him than what I picked up during our conversations.
 
That encounter is what started me down the Hustler path. It was a path filled with ups, downs, twists, turns and stress. My first 2 and a half years was ROUGH. I struggled. But I was able to replace a regular job… barely.
 
As people started noticing my drive and ambition, I started meeting other street Hustler who laced me with more Game. Some of it legit, some of it just completely wrong.
 
Then I met more people; people with legitimate businesses who also taught me things. And this went on and on for years until I reached the height of my street Hustle Game. I did very well. By street Hustle standards, I would have been considered a “Boss Player”. But I refused to become an actual Boss (manager of a team). That was a huge mistake on my part... but we live, we learn.

So I went from broke to making serious money – what changed? I changed. They way I looked at money and business changed the way I thought. The new way I started thinking altered my behavior and decisions for the better.
 
When I wrote my first book, Unlocking the Small Business Game (originally, The Hustler's Manual), I wanted to give the average person a “playbook” so to speak. I wanted to give the sincere reader a means to clear away misconceptions and provide an entirely different Perspective on the way making money works. I would like to think I accomplished that.
 
In that book, and in blog posts and podcasts on this website, I’ve shared things to do and how to do them. Now it’s time to take them to an advanced level. It’s time to understand WHY they work and how to get consistent results.
 
These WHYs are what I’m just going to call, Hustler Logic. It’s the operating system that runs the “software” – it’s the salt that you put in the oats to lead a horse to water AND make it drink – it’s the wizard behind the curtain in the movie, The Wizard of Oz.
 
Hustler Logic is for the serious entrepreneur (Hustler). It’s for the person who’s ready to get away from the “kiddies table” and sit with the grown-ups. I’ve waited patiently for over 3 years to teach this; and I’m glad I did. Now that many of you have a grasp of The Game itself, we can skip the basics and get straight to business (figuratively and literally).
 
If you’re like I was; trying to understand how to “get out”, then I strongly suggest you get ready for this class. The class itself is mindset training. I’m going to provide a detailed break-down on what I was taught, what I learned and what I still use today. I use it because it works and it gets results! This class will be online so you can learn in the comfort of your own home.
 
The Game itself has what’s called a “light side” (no manipulation) and a “dark side” (psychological manipulation). Hustler Logic sits in a unique spot between these 2 extremes; it’s the “grey area” – the center of 2 sides of the same coin. Like I said, this information is for grown-folks. Play time is about to be over.
 
If you find this interesting then just stay tuned in. Soon I’ll be giving more details so you can decide if this information can benefit you.
 
More Game next week. Until then, stay in motion.

​#HustlerLogic #UncommonSense

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