If you asked me what the essence of the Game is, I would tell you that it’s understanding a ‘certain kind of information’ on a deep level. This knowledge allows you to learn and analyze yourself. Once you do that, you will have learned about your real nature. Not what you have been conditioned to think your true nature is.
Once this is accomplished, you will be able to understand the true nature of other people and how events “move and shake” around you. This places you in a position of control.
It sounds deep because it is. Never limit the Game to what you think it is. Trust me; it’s a whole new world.
When we dig into basic human nature, people generally want the same things. They want more of what they want. That sounds vague but it’s true. There are basic human desires we all have and there are desire that were “programmed” into us.
Out of all the speaking, coaching and counseling I do, I've realized that there are many lies that people tell themselves that leave them feeling powerless and weak. For this post I’m pulling out 3 of the most common and easiest to explain.
Enough rambling, let’s get into it!
(1) You don’t care what other people think about you…
I call bullshit on that. Yes, you DO care what people think about you. Stop lying to yourself.
The way you dress, the way you communicate, the way you walk, the way you eat and what you eat, the way you try to treat others "respectfully" - All of these behaviors and mannerisms reflect the culture you grew up in and that of your particular social circle.
If you didn't follow these behaviors, you would be an outcast. You would be called “strange” or “weird”. The majority of people can’t deal with the emotional and mental social pressure so they just follow the crowd.
Some people aren't crazy; they just break under the strain of fighting who they’re supposed to be (by social and cultural standards) with who they really are. A chain breaks at its weakest link and the weakest link is usually an untrained mind. Peep Game.
Stop telling yourself this lie because when you do things that go outside the boundary of social ‘norms’ you feel guilty or wrong. This guilt is a weight you don’t need to carry around with you. It’s like hauling 2 packed suitcases. You’re packed to go on a trip but you’re just going to your mailbox at the end of the driveway. The extra weight of suitcases aren't necessary.
Don’t tell yourself you don’t care what other people think. Just learn to care more about what you think than what they think. Next, take Responsibility for that decision and deal with the consequences.
(2) If ‘THIS’ happens, or if you get ‘THAT’, then you’ll be happy…
No you won’t. Stop lying to yourself. Let me break down why.
The untrained human mind is NEVER satisfied. Wealthy billionaires still strive for more money. Men who have literally slept with hundreds of women still try to sleep with more women. And for what reason?
An untrained mind always desires what it doesn't have. It’s always looking outside of itself for happiness and contentment.
You want the brutal reality? You are only really HAPPY when things are HAPPENING your way. And things rarely happen your way. Think I’m lying? Think about the last time you truly felt happy. Now think about what happened at this time. Things were going your way, am I right?
Even if you were happy because of someone else, what you wanted for them, happened - or they accomplished something that you've always wanted to do yourself (or do again). Now ask yourself how long that happiness lasted. Probably a day or 2 at most - easy come, easy go.
That’s not really happiness, sorry.
The mind is like a vicious untrained dog. You have to catch it, put a chain around its neck and constantly struggle with it. Once it settles down and realizes it has a Master, it can then be trained.
Accept the reality of your nature, because it is human nature – external events and possession will NOT bring you lasting satisfaction. Happiness, like many things, begins inside of you. But even that is predicated by the way you think.
Perspective is both objective and subjective. Everyone is chasing the carrots on the sticks that THEY put there! Peep Game.
(3) You deserve better…
Do you really? Here’s a fact that you can’t deny – You can’t get something for nothing. You don’t get a check if you don’t go to work. You can’t receive love if you don’t give love. You can’t get the benefits of food if you don’t eat. Everything in this life must be earned; there is a price that must be paid.
If you don’t pay the price, you don’t deserve to have what you want. Period.
Many people say they deserve more and deserve better but many people won’t do what it takes to get it.
It’s easy to do when you want a new car or a new residence. Why should working toward any goal or anything else you want be any different? You make a decision of what you want - you learn what needs to be done to get it - you make a plan that usually involves some sacrifices and you just go for it. But some people expect things to magically fall in their lap out of thin air.
Do you REALLY want a better relationship? Do you REALLY want to be a successful entrepreneur? Do you REALLY want to lose weight? Then learn what it takes and then do what it takes. Commit to it! Or stop lying to yourself and move on to something that motivates you more.
When you have too many of these weak “goals” and you don’t accomplish them, you feel terrible. You feel like you’re failing. You feel like you're lagging behind other people. You feel like you’re boxed-in. Nothing you do seems to work out. But that is the result of not putting in the necessary work (or half-ass doing it) to get what you want.
Wanting doesn't get it. Wishing doesn't get it. And doing things half-assed doesn't get it.
Stop lying to yourself and wasting the most precious resource in your life. Your time.
Time doesn't wait on you to make up your mind.
Stop lying to yourself about these 3 things. They rob you of time, energy, money, self-esteem, confidence and genuine happiness. They keep you unfocused and unmotivated and that’s not what we want, is it?
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