For the Men – How to Start Taking Charge of Your Manhood

This is a follow up to last week’s post, “The Shocking Truth about a Man’s Greatest Need”. If you missed it just click [HERE].

That post generated hundreds of views and a lot of positive feedback from women, but no response from men. All good, I figured this time around I would address the men directly.

This post is going to step on some toes but that’s fine, this information is needed.

Men, many of us have lost our Manhood and some of us never had it to begin with. The majority of us were never taught just what Manhood is.

The problem I face when I discuss Manhood is that people (men in particular) feel that just because they’re grown, this makes them a man. This isn’t true.

• You’re not a man because you’ve grown up.
  
• You’re not a man because you hold down a job or run a business. 
  
• You’re not a man because you have a nice house, car or other material things.
  
• You’re not a man because you’ve had children.
  
• You’re not a man because you have sex with a number of women.
  
• You’re not a man because you can fix things around the house or work on a car.
  

True Manhood is beyond all of that, and this is why we’re losing control of our lives, households and our families. Men have been conditioned to seek material and worldly pleasures to “look” like we’re "about" something, instead of standing on principles and developing character.

Before I define what a man is I need to make this statement:

A man is not what you become when you grow up. A man is a position that must be held.

A man is a position you must step into. Like I said last week, some grown men are just grown “boys”. So what is a man? What is this position that must be held?

The easiest way for me to define Manhood is like this -Let’s look at the dating world:

Now men, keep it real with me… many of us, when we first meet a woman we like, put up a good front.

We’re nice, accommodating, patient and attentive. But over time, months down the line, we change. We don’t become someone “different”, we become who we already “are”.

So here you go, showing a woman all your good qualities but because this is not really you, the real you comes out later. This happens because a person acts and speaks the way they think. No one can keep up a front forever, especially when the responsibilities of a relationship weigh down on you.

And you know what happens when the real you finally comes out? Women get confused and upset – and they have every right to be. Why? Because you were not consistent in who you said you were.  This shatters her sense of security, which is one of a woman’s greatest needs.

This is not being responsible – this is not being accountable. And this is one reason women lose respect for you. Put the shoe on the other foot and you would feel the same way.

In the Game we say, “Never start a pace you can’t keep up,” and this applies here.

The position of Manhood is about consistency and accountability. To be who you claim you are at all times, no exceptions.

This is not easy and this sure as hell isn’t convenient – but this is a large part of what it takes to hold the position of Manhood.

True men Function – we do not Fold. We are consistent in who and what we say we are, at all times and with no compromise. We take responsibility and accountability for everything we say and do. Simple. Period.

Now let me make this even clearer.

If you don’t know who you truly are – you cannot take the position of Manhood.  As I stated last week - You can’t give what you don’t have.

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To hold the position of Manhood, you must have principles that you never Fold on. You must have integrity and character. When you posses these things no one can come move you. No one can come and convince you to act any other way. You don’t bend or sway in any situation. Your principles, character and integrity come first at all times – no compromising, no exceptions.

And if you don’t have any principles, standards, character or integrity you cannot hold the position of Manhood – You’re just a boy who has grown up.

A man that has strong principles, standards, character and integrity isn’t always liked by everyone. But he is respected and appreciated by his woman and his family – what’s more important than that?

For those of you men reading this that disagree with me, let me give you some Real Game:

A woman is attracted to a man's overall behavior over anything else. Don't believe me? Ask them. A man's behavior can turn them on and turn them off in a heartbeat.

Final words – I’m not a religious person and I’m not trying to turn this into a religious discussion but there is a vital lesson to be learned.

When Adam was confronted by the Heavenly Father in the biblical story of Adam and Eve (Genesis Chapter 3), Adam Folded under the pressure. Instead of being accountable and taking responsibility for what he was put in position to do, he blamed the woman. And to make matters worse he blamed the Heavenly Father for giving him the woman.

Adam not being accountable for his position of rulership was the fall of man. Consider that for a moment.

Men, stop pulling an Adam! Stop blaming your woman, other people and the outside World for not “allowing” you to be who you need to be. Claim your position of Manhood.

This only scratches the surface of this topic but I think this is a good starting point so I’ll end this here.

Let’s air this out. What are your thoughts on this?

Leave a comment below.

Until next time.

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