Who likes to lose? Nobody, right? But you can’t win all the time, that’s just not being realistic. There’s a saying in The Game, “Human beings don’t like to lose, but they won’t do what it takes to win.”
When I was younger, like most young people, I never wanted to look like I couldn’t do something. When someone said I couldn’t, I would try anyway. I wanted to prove I could but the results were usually disastrous as you can imagine. Going in with no knowledge about what I was doing and backed with only the intention to look impressive usually didn’t work out well. Now that I think back, I can only recall a handful of times it worked out.
What I’ve found throughout my years with speaking to people from all walks of life are that human begins really DO NOT like to lose. People who don’t even try to win, still hate to know they’ll lose. It’s a strange irony because some people get stuck in their comfort zones. They’ll run scared before they try something new – even it is may benefit them in the long run. It’s called a comfort zone for a reason.
Winning is great. It’s where the accolades are, the recognition, the congratulations, the positive results and the “crown” we wear called success. Who doesn’t want that? But winning is the finish line, what about the rest of the race?
Let’s be honest, most people never set themselves up for the BIG WIN. In fact, most people mentally defeat themselves before they even start. As soon as 1 thing goes wrong, that’s it! They get discouraged and throw in the towel. They immediately give up and go in another direction. There’s no nice way to say this, so I’ll just keep it real – this behavior is a sign of a mental weakness. This shows a mind that will never achieve a BIG WIN because it can’t focus long enough to see positive results.
All things happen in and through time. Time is the leveler of ALL playing fields. You can be rich or poor; healthy or unhealthy; successful or not; but everyone on the planet only has 24-hours in a day.
When people don’t see immediate results, they back off. Usually they back-off completely. That’s almost like driving from your house, to your friend’s house, but you suddenly stop and go back home just because there's a couple slow moving cars ahead of you. That’s sound ridiculous, right? Well it should sound silly, because it is. There’s supposed to be other cars on the road, just like there’s supposed to be adversity when attempting anything new. You can move around certain obstacles in your way as long as you follow the “rules of the road”. And certain obstacles will move out of your way on their own.
Confidence is key in whatever you do. But confidence comes with experiencing SMALL WINS. When you get a SMALL WIN, this will usually propel you to keep trying – to do something again for a bigger result. The issue is, most people never stay motivated long enough to get a small win. Or they get 1 or 2 but dismiss them because they weren’t the BIG WIN. They look for fireworks and blowing trumpets to let them (and everyone they’re trying to impress) know they’ve made it. But with enough SMALL WINS, they would eventually get to the BIG WIN.
Any forms of advancement, growth, improvement or success are all PROCESSES – a course marked by gradual changes. They don’t happen overnight. You can’t take a wand and magically materialize your ideal situation into existence. Every process involves TIME. If you can’t stay focused for a long period of time then you’ll never make it to the BIG WIN. And our “training ground” to garner any sized win is making the best use of your time EVERYDAY. You have to step up to the plate, EVERYDAY.
Not try to see what happens, not test the waters, but making the same decision everyday until you see a result – a SMALL WIN. Then you keep going and learning and adjusting until you finally arrive at the BIG WIN.
This sounds so simple because it is.
This requires focus, mental fortitude and a degree of emotional control. Fear, doubt and worry cannot be allowed to take hold of you. When they do, you’ll give up.
Consider the athlete that trains almost everyday with a definite focus for improvement. How about the singer, the author or musician who hones their craft by using it daily? Every small improvement is a SMALL WIN. There is something to be said for natural talent, but natural talent not used will only yield mediocre results.
Everything you do, or plan to do, is a PROCESS. It will take time, commitment, dedication and sacrifice. And while you keep that in mind and move forward, you set a very powerful force in motion. A force that allows almost anyone to accomplish almost anything. And this Dominating Force is available to everyone. The first step to activating this force is decided on EXACTLY what you want. The next step is identifying obstacles in your way. These can come from within you (fear, doubt or worry) or outside of you. Once your decision is made, keep going until you start seeing results – SMALL WINS.
Allow yourself to go through the process. Whatever process that is for you – nobody else, just you. Then one day you’ll finally arrive at that BIG WIN. This is Real Game, consider yourself laced.
IMPORTANT NOTE: The first, Gentleman’s Game Class, of 2017 is this weekend so there will be no blog post next week. THE BLOG WILL RETURN, WEDNESDAY, MARCH 15th, 2017. Until then, keep it moving! See you in a couple weeks.